Forgiveness according to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary is “the act of forgiving” and forgiving is “willing or able to forgive” or “allowing room for error or weakness”. Forgive means to give up resentment of or claim to requital for, to grant relief from, to cease to feel resentment against (an offender).
So many times we go through things where we have to make the decision whether to forgive or not. We usually want to hold grudges and dwell on our hurt feelings rather than pay attention to the future and what can be accomplished. We have to reach the point where we forgive others because it’s not for them, it’s for ourselves. Those who offend us aren’t losing sleep or appetites over whether or not we forgive them or not because usually they feel justified in what they did that offended us. We become slaves to our memories and feelings by not granting forgiveness. When we don’t want to forgive, we should think…”God forgives us so many times, so there isn’t anything someone can do that condones us not forgiving them.”
Forgiveness doesn’t mean that we forget…remember “fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me” We’ve got to remember to learn a lesson from what we go through as to not put ourselves in that position again but we have to learn to approach those situations more carefully. It doesn't even mean that we sit and go through the rolodex of our mind to see if that person DESERVES our forgiveness, we just need to grant it and keep rolling. The person (people) may have done so much to us that we feel that we don't want anything to do with them, but we don't deserve anything from God...how can we withhold forgiveness from someone else?
When we forgive, it allows us to move on with our lives and function as we need to. We can block getting our blessings from God if we’re fixated on bringing up an issue that “we can’t forgive”…. When we continue to find little ways to bring up the past to put it in someone’s face, we haven’t truly experienced forgiveness. When God forgives us: “As far as the east is from the west, [so] far hath he removed our transgressions from us.” (Psalms 103:12) and we should strive to do the same. By bringing up issues in someone’s face we are holding ourselves to the idea that we believe that there can be no forward movement. We need to let it go and move on…..A key thought that I remember that helps me to face things or to keep up what I’m doing is this: “God’s Sovereignty-Nothing touches me that has not passed through the hands of my Heavenly Father”. So when I go through something and forgiveness needs to be granted, I need to grant it and move on with what I need to be doing, because God’s Sovereignty is ALWAYS in play and God only works out things to the best of our interest….
Amen and signing out….
**Unforgiveness is the poison we drink hoping others will die**