Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Change your mind

When our circumstances don't change, sometimes we have to change our minds....or mindset.

How many times do we find ourselves frustrated with the results we get after trying to accomplish something for the milionth time? If the ingredients are A, B and C, why do we get upset when the results are always ABC....we want XYZ but we don't have X, Y and Z going in....We think that by repeating the process and wishing, talking, venting and ignoring what the original factors are that we can miraculously get a much different outcome......no people....we're not magicians....

Instead of continuing to put up with the same results after doing things the same way every time:  Accept that the results are not going to change, and find a different approach or change our attitude. 
If you hate to clean, turn on music, it will help the time pass faster...If you don't like to be the one to drive your friends everywhere every time you all go out as a group, nominate another driver or speak up. If you don't like to cook every night, order out.  I sometimes say, "it's not what you say/do, it's the DELIVERY".  Sometimes finding another way of doing something will get your real message across and get the result you want without you having to get all bent out of shape and upset.  Sometimes, just changing your attitude is enough....whether you need to be more lax or more firm depends on the situation....

Instead of trying to fight God's will for your life: Recognize the real reason why you're fighting it and then get over yourself.  Yes, yourself....I could have said "get over it" but when we are the cause of "it" then I'll just cut to the chase and call it like it is...It is SO misguided for us to think that we know better than God when it comes to what is in store for our lives and when the appropriate time is for us to throw things out of our lives.  We always want to hang onto friends, habits, objects and other idols in our lives that do nothing but cause us pain...why? Cause we haven't just said "yes Lord"....personally, my little thing was forgiveness without a grudge....and MAN! I'm not even going to pretend like the sermons I heard weren't speaking to me....it seemed like EVERY sermon I heard was about forgiveness....the right kind of forgiveness.  Once I finally learned to do that, there are some things that fell into place in my life...and it was a wonderful feeling. How are you going to fight the one that GAVE you life? It doesn't make any sense especially since He can take you out or take everything you have if you DON'T listen to Him (Examples: Annanias and Saphira (they lied, they died) and Micah ( build up your life with the wrong things, God will take it all...Judges 18:22-26)

Instead of allowing ourselves to be influenced by others in a bad way: Grow a backbone.  When we die our friends won't be the ones to give account for the things we did. So many times we live our lives to please everyone but the one that counts: GOD.  We act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain items, go to certain events all because we get talked into by someone who doesn't live our life or experience what we go through. Everyone needs some accountability to doing the right thing...maybe you can get that with your family or closest circle of friends...everyone has different issues to deal with and they don't handle them the same way, but if you have true friends, they'll be honest and open with you about any areas that may be lacking a little luster. I remember a friend of mine asked me if the way she acted embarassed me in public.  While she didn't embarass me, I would wonder if people would take her seriously, which is what I did want for her....she's a great woman growing in God and I didn't want that to not shine through...but after that situation, I realized that whoever brought that to her attention is a true friend of hers because if you're not a friend, you usually won't care.

In the end we have to change somehow....if we don't we're just going to be running in circles, being repeated offenders....

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Are we withdrawing from an empty account?

Out of:
patience = you have irritability
self-control = gives in to desires and emotions
willpower = turns to laziness
kindness = becomes frustrated easily
empathy = becomes uncaring
sympathy = loss of loyalty
love = filling with selfishness

Is our spiritual bank account running low? Then we need a deposit of God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit. When we don't know how we can go on with our days because of thoughts that consume us and issues we deal with, we HAVE to look for him to fill us up.  We should never expect perfection from anyone but Jesus, He can do all but fail us.  Sometimes we have to take a step back and breathe.....(and if we're female, getting out a good cry usually helps)...Life will dish out so much, but we don't have to accept everything as being of God....the Devil will try our patience, self-control, willpower, kindness, empathy, sympathy and love.  We just have to stay focused, cause God won't put more on us than we can bear...and when we feel like we are going through, we shouldn't ignore the times of feast between the times of famine. Even if they are short times, God allowed us to have them.

I'm wishing everyone an endless deposit of GOD to their day....we always need him......

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Running From the Enemy

So I had a crazy dream last night…you all will think I’m nuts after this….but this really was my dream last night.  But first some background info…..

Some of you may remember the cartoon “Who Framed Roger Rabbit?” that used both live human action and cartoon animation. Well if you do, then you remember “The Dip”. “The Dip” was the only way to kill a cartoon since cartoons never died, they just survived many death attempts. In the movie, Judge Doom tries to buy Toon Town and get rid of the “toons”, as they were called, via spilling the dip across Toon Town.

Okay back to my dream…..or at least what I remember

So I’m hiding out in some old run down barn sitting in a rustic Model T car and my toon pet dog is going nuts. My dog goes to hide under a car where the 4th tire should have been and as Judge Doom comes flying through a back door with wood planks flying through the air, my dog takes off running carrying me in the car…We race over to the freeway and it’s packed. Bumper to bumper. But is that a problem? No, not for a toon….My dog just jumps on the first car and starts driving over the tops of all the cars ahead of us. As we’re racing down the freeway, I hear police sirens wailing and I can see Judge Doom in the rear view mirror and he’s gaining ground.

Just as we come up to an overpass, my dog jumps and I’m thinking “why in the world is this dog trying to jump over the overpass instead of just running beneath it?” Well my dog surprises me and hangs a sharp left landing on the bridge that was just a moment ago almost above our head. To our advantage, Judge Doom didn’t see and continued down the freeway but I knew he’d be back on our trail in a second…So my dog starts to take off running again but then slows down right away. I start trying to call out it to keep running, trying to figure out why the dog stopped when our lives are in danger and we could be caught at any moment. The dog looks at me then points to the side where there appears to be a kid’s T-Ball game getting ready to start and they were having a moment of prayer. I’m thinking, “Dog! Keep running! You can speed without barking……” but then the dog just looks at me with this look that says “wait and look…we’ll be okay”…..they start playing some song over the PA system at the game and all of a sudden the sky just cracks open and this blinding light just shines through…..

This is where I wake up and realize that I’m hearing “reveille” from the Army Base across from my neighborhood…..goodness, what a dream. Then I started thinking about how many times we run from our enemy, Satan. We try to do the right things and stay out of trouble and there are times when we are going through situations where we feel like we’ll never make it through and we may break. But then something brings us to a complete stop and we’re forced to pause and think why….it is at that time when the Holy Spirit reminds us of who He is. He reassures us that God is in control and has us in His care and we don’t have to run anymore.

Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth.- Psalm 46:10

“Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them” - Anonymous

Friday, May 14, 2010

Understanding Fasting: A Guide to Help Save Your Sanity

Excerpts from the book “Fasting” by Jentezen Franklin

For those of you who have never really looked into fasting or understood why there is a need for it, this book will help. This year I participated in a corporate fast with my church and no joke, it was hard for me to do…. After seeing my misunderstanding of fasting, I received this book as a gift. At first I did not want to read it, but knew that it would only help me if I did read it… And it did. Most of the information in this guide are straight from the book word for word (including chapter titles-which will be helpful if you get the book). This guide is just going to give you the main points from the book and biblical references. If I can understand exactly what the author was saying in plain terms why bother to reword it to pass it on….below is the info for the book in case you decide you want the full version of it.

Fasting by Jentezen Franklin
Published by Charisma House
A Strang Company
600 Rinehart Road
Lake Mary, Florida 32746

ISBN-10: 1599792583
ISBN-13: 978-1599792583

Section 1: The Private Discipline That Brings Public Reward
The discipline of fasting releases the anointing, the favor and the blessing of God in the life of a Christian.

1—Fasting for Your Breakthrough
The three duties of a Christian are giving, praying and fasting and when you faithfully follow those three things, God rewards openly.

-Matthew 6

-Matthew 17: 20-21
20And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.21Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting.
2—Dethroning King Stomach
Some ate themselves out of God’s will for their lives. There is no convenient time to fast.

-Genesis 25:34
Then Jacob gave Esau bread and pottage of lentils; and he did eat and drink, and rose up, and went his way: thus Esau despised his birthright.

-Ezekiel 16:49-50
49Behold, this was the iniquity of thy sister Sodom, pride, fullness of bread, and abundance of idleness was in her and in her daughters, neither did she strengthen the hand of the poor and needy. 50And they were haughty, and committed abomination before me: therefore I took them away as I saw good.

-Hebrews 12:15-17
15Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be de filed;16Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.17For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears.

3—How Much? How Long? How Healthy?
If it doesn’t mean anything to you, it won’t mean anything to God. (I think the reason there was no exact, definitive information on guidelines for what to fast from and for how long is because of that reasoning). Fasting is a spring cleaning for your body, purging your system of toxins.

4—Every Assignment Has a Birthplace
Fasting keeps you sensitive to His Spirit, enabling you to live holy. Fasting prepares you for a new anointing, God can’t put new wine in old wineskin bags, if you want new you have to rid yourself of the old. Satan hates it when you fast, don’t let him get your focus on your appetite and circumstances rather than the promises of God being released when we employ the powerful weapon of fasting.

-Romans 12:1
1I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye pre sent your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

-Mark 2:22
22And no man putteth new wine into old bottles: else the new wine doth burst the bottles, and the wine is spilled, and the bottles will be marred: but new wine must be put into new bottles.

5—Swatting Flies
A comparison was given for the vulnerability in Satan’s kingdom comparing it to flies. Weakness relates to the lifespan of flies which ranges up to 40 days and if you stop short of 40 days with pesticides to exterminate them you only kill the current generation but not the next generation.

In the bible, the number “40” represents cleansing and purification:
Noah - flood for 40 days and nights
Moses– 40 years in Egypt, then 40 years in the desert, delivering and bringing God’s people to the Promised Land

6—God’s Coming to Dinner?
We shouldn’t look at fasting as another bothersome ritual as if we are eating the same thing for dinner every night. Fasting is a constant means of renewing yourself spiritually. When you worship you magnify God.

7—You Shall be Filled
When you hunger for God, He will fill you and when you hunger for more, you will receive more. *We need to hunger after God more than we hunger after religion.

-Matthew 12:1-8
1At that time Jesus went on the sabbath day through the corn; and his disciples were an hungred, and began to pluck the ears of corn and to eat.2But when the Pharisees saw it, they said unto him, Behold, thy disciples do that which is not lawful to do upon the sabbath day.3But he said unto them, Have ye not read what David did, when he was an hungred, and they that were with him;4How he entered into the house of God, and did eat the shewbread, which was not lawful for him to eat, neither for them which were with him, but only for the priests?5Or have ye not read in the law, how that on the sabbath days the priests in the temple profane the sabbath, and are blameless?6But I say unto you, That in this place is one greater than the temple.7But if ye had known what this meaneth, I will have mercy, and not sacrifice, ye would not have condemned the guiltless.8For the Son of man is Lord even of the sabbath day.

8—Rewarded Openly
Fasting whether corporately or individually is a private discipline. Where there is little private discipline there is little public reward. We should keep it personal. Fasting can break poverty from our life and can break us from sexual addictions and demonic powers. Health and healing will follow a time of fasting. God will also target your children with the rewards of your fasting.

-Matthew 6:1-4
1Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them: otherwise ye have no reward of your Father which is in heaven.2Therefore when thou doest thine alms, do not sound a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward.3But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth:4That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret himself shall reward thee openly.

-Joel 2:28
28And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, your young men shall see visions:

9—Nothing Shall Be Impossible-It Works!
Different examples were given over dilemmas that people overcame with their fasting.

Section 2: Opening a Door to God’s Promises
Lack of control over the flesh opened the door for sin’s temptation…part of the sacrifice of fasting, seeking God and studying His word is that normal activity fades into the background. Fasting is abstaining from food for spiritual purposes. We shouldn’t fast to obtain merit with God or get rid of sin, the only thing that does that is salvation: being cleansed with Jesus’ blood.

10—He Pleased God
Hungering for God brings with it a much greater reward than satisfying the temporary hunger in my body. When the Holy Spirit calls you to a fast, He’s preparing you for what’s ahead. If you want to please God, believe Him.

-Hebrews 11:6
But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

11 -- Garment of Praise
Fasting breaks the spririt of heaviness. There is power in corporate fasting and corporate praise! It creates a river of healing, of deliverance and victory, cleansing in the house of God. It’s time to exchange the ashes for beauty, mourning for joy, the garment of heaviness for praise.

-Isaiah 61:2-3
2To proclaim the acceptable year of the LORD, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn;3To appoint unto them that mourn in Zion, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

12– Fasting, Faith, and Patience
Jentezen gives the illustration that digging up a seed too soon because you see no sprouts damages the results...give it time, it will produce. We have to let the fasting take root. Don’t measure faith by the size of the problem, God will reward your diligence.

-Matthew 17:20
20And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you.

13— God’s Priorities
There is no higher authority than to know the heart of God for a situation you’re facing. Fasting puts you in the mainstream of God’s priorities, it tunes your priorities more vertical and more in line with God’s desires. What you put first will order the rest (Spirit before body). Fasting allows us to clear the inside which will then make the outside more presentable. Fasting slows life down to help find whom our hearts desire

-Matthew 6:31-33
31Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?32(For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.33But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
-Matthew 7:1-5
1Judge not, that ye be not judged.2For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.3And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?4Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?5Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
-Romans 8:13
13For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.

-Galatians 6:1-3
1Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, re store such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.2Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.3For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself.

14— For the Little Ones
[We fast] to know the right way for our lives and for our children’s safety and future. We need to trust the reliability of the scripture when things get a little crazy.

-James 4:6-10
6But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.7Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.8Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.9Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.10Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

15— Is Your Blade sharp Enough?
It is time we set ourselves apart to seek the Lord and find understanding. When we fast and pray, we sharpen the will of God in our mouths (usually our meal times turn into study times).

16— Seen but Not Heard
We should enter a fast seriously only after having repented of known sins. God will hear us and answer.

-Isaiah 58:8-9 8Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily: and thy righteousness shall go before thee; the glory of the LORD shall be thy reward.9Then shalt thou call, and the LORD shall answer; thou shalt cry, and he shall say, Here I am. If thou take away from the midst of thee the yoke, the putting forth of the finger, and speaking vanity;

17— Go for It
Fasting will help you identify areas of hidden sin in our lives. We have no place for pride or complacency. Don’t let blessings of the past mess up blessings of the future. Blessings of sanctification brings God’s promises of his covenant. God wants us to ask him for the things that are bigger than ourselves.

Thursday, May 13, 2010


Be yourself, everyone else is already taken. – Oscar Wilde

So many times we feel like we are put into stereotypes by others that stifle our individuality. As we age and begin raising children, we encourage them to be themselves with respect to rules, morals, religion, etc. as many of us ourselves were taught to do. But all the while we push ourselves into a stereotype while trying to help everyone else nurture their differences. We find ourselves standing at the sink, sitting at a red light, in the middle of a commercial break thinking “Who in the world am I?”

We have to remember that all of us, young and old have a different set of eyes, views, opinions and personalities to bring to the table. We cannot try to do as others would have us do, but only do as God would have us do. This goes for who we do and don’t speak to (and how we speak to them), where we work, how we dress and conduct ourselves just to name a few areas.

We shouldn’t ever take it upon ourselves to give someone our opinion of them in the hopes that it will change their individuality if the thing we’re speaking on is not a sin or damaging but instead something that just makes us uncomfortable. If we are uncomfortable with something, we need to ask ourselves why it is bothering us….not try to change the other person. What works for us may not work for someone else, and what works for them may not work for us.

The reason that people get along is that they don’t find people exactly like them; they just find people who have similar interests, lifestyles, and patterns. The little things that make them different are what fuel their individuality. We need to embrace others’ individuality, but instead of asking “Who in the world am I?” we need to figure out and accept who we are and be comfortable with it. Others will like us for the things that make us different from them. God made each of us differently and the worst way to live is within the boundaries of a stereotype that is not true of you. You will find yourself miserable and lonely, disliking people for the simple fact that they are trying to change you, even if they mean well (in their own minds) in doing so. We shouldn’t let stereotypes put on us deter us from the plan God has for us. Remember, stereotypes don’t determine who we are…God already did that.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Addition to Hoarding blog...on the spiritual side

Someone emailed me asking about sin hoarding...so I dug around and this is what I came up with. (The links of where I found the info are included....I didn't agree with everything on both sites, but they had some clear information in my opinion.) My comments are in green.

1)“Greed, selfishness and greediness are all sin. Hoarding is sin. Keeping an abundance of items just for the sake of having them is sin, so that would include so-called ‘collectors’ (Matthew 6:19).

Imagine if we have an abundance of gifts and talents and we keep them to ourselves and don't use them...we could hinder someone else from receiving their blessing

2) Jesus said we are to guard ourselves from greed, and trust Him for our needs because He will supply them, and we are not to hoard or amass.

If we love the things we accumulated and those things are sins then how can we love the Lord or be in his will (since he cannot entertain or accept our sins)?

3) Hoarders waste because they can`t let anyone else use what they have. The goods deteriorate, are destroyed by rodents, or are so hopelessly outdated by the time they are rescued that no one would want them. By keeping things that won`t be used, they keep the basic materials out of the recycling stream as well. They don`t want to deal with their accumulation, even though it sits there uselessly. They want someone else to deal with it, as one therapist said while trying to help a person caught in a hoarding pathology. While trying to maintain control, they don`t take control.

Comment by a member-I think hoarding is also a fear to let God provide.

The first line said it best "hoarders waste because they can't let anyone else use what they have".  Back to my first comment about if we have an abundance of gifts...look at the flipside.....if we have an abundance of sins they will leak over to whatever gifts we have and slowly start to diminish them.  We've all heard the saying "one bad apple spoils the bunch"...well the same goes our gifts....if we don't put them into exercise, they become lax and ineffective. 

Monday, May 3, 2010


Last night I was watching "Hoarders: Buried Alive", a show that looks into two different cases of poeple becoming hoarders in their homes and the trials they face.  The show ranges from single parent homes to married older couples to widows and widowers who have an issue of stockpiling items.  For most of these people their hoarding started off small with a few knick knacks, a deceased loved one's favorite sweater, a beloved pet's old water bowl or other items that triggered memories.  Happy, fulfilling memories of what used to be is also the main reason people don't get rid of the items. During the segment, the "case study" is speaking with the show's host who helps them come to grips with the fact that they need help clearing out the clutter or their close friends and/or loved ones may cut their ties with them.  Many times the family and friends of these people do so to save themselves from a relationship that they don't understand.  The families and friends don't understand why their loved one is holding on to all the items, most of which they probably haven't seen in years due to the extent of hoarding.  Being a hoarder has cut many of these victims off from entertaining guests in their homes as more than 70% of the home is storage space to a degree and unfit for living by them (and whatever pets they have) although they continue to work and have regular jobs.

In our spiritual walk we can also be hoarders....when we are saved we have to learn to "clean house", remove the things that we shouldn't be involved in and have at our disposal.  But no, some of us are stubborn and we choose to "hoard" our closet sins (and a few open ones).  We want to keep items to remind of us the shred of sinful happiness we had when we were involved in the wrong activities or in the wrong places, and before we know it, we have a "room" full in our mind/life of things that we shouldn't. Before we know it our hoarding affects the other people we live with that see our true selves....we damage our character in their eyes...we find that we don't hang out with the same group anymore....we start keeping people at a distance...  Then again, we may find that certain people don't talk to us anymore or come around as often...a relationship is a two way street....

I just had a conversation with someone (about something totally different than this post) and they said something that was applicable to the post: If you live dirty, you've got to deal with the dirt.....

'Nuff said about that...