Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Change your mind

When our circumstances don't change, sometimes we have to change our minds....or mindset.

How many times do we find ourselves frustrated with the results we get after trying to accomplish something for the milionth time? If the ingredients are A, B and C, why do we get upset when the results are always ABC....we want XYZ but we don't have X, Y and Z going in....We think that by repeating the process and wishing, talking, venting and ignoring what the original factors are that we can miraculously get a much different outcome......no people....we're not magicians....

Instead of continuing to put up with the same results after doing things the same way every time:  Accept that the results are not going to change, and find a different approach or change our attitude. 
If you hate to clean, turn on music, it will help the time pass faster...If you don't like to be the one to drive your friends everywhere every time you all go out as a group, nominate another driver or speak up. If you don't like to cook every night, order out.  I sometimes say, "it's not what you say/do, it's the DELIVERY".  Sometimes finding another way of doing something will get your real message across and get the result you want without you having to get all bent out of shape and upset.  Sometimes, just changing your attitude is enough....whether you need to be more lax or more firm depends on the situation....

Instead of trying to fight God's will for your life: Recognize the real reason why you're fighting it and then get over yourself.  Yes, yourself....I could have said "get over it" but when we are the cause of "it" then I'll just cut to the chase and call it like it is...It is SO misguided for us to think that we know better than God when it comes to what is in store for our lives and when the appropriate time is for us to throw things out of our lives.  We always want to hang onto friends, habits, objects and other idols in our lives that do nothing but cause us pain...why? Cause we haven't just said "yes Lord"....personally, my little thing was forgiveness without a grudge....and MAN! I'm not even going to pretend like the sermons I heard weren't speaking to me....it seemed like EVERY sermon I heard was about forgiveness....the right kind of forgiveness.  Once I finally learned to do that, there are some things that fell into place in my life...and it was a wonderful feeling. How are you going to fight the one that GAVE you life? It doesn't make any sense especially since He can take you out or take everything you have if you DON'T listen to Him (Examples: Annanias and Saphira (they lied, they died) and Micah ( build up your life with the wrong things, God will take it all...Judges 18:22-26)

Instead of allowing ourselves to be influenced by others in a bad way: Grow a backbone.  When we die our friends won't be the ones to give account for the things we did. So many times we live our lives to please everyone but the one that counts: GOD.  We act a certain way, dress a certain way, buy certain items, go to certain events all because we get talked into by someone who doesn't live our life or experience what we go through. Everyone needs some accountability to doing the right thing...maybe you can get that with your family or closest circle of friends...everyone has different issues to deal with and they don't handle them the same way, but if you have true friends, they'll be honest and open with you about any areas that may be lacking a little luster. I remember a friend of mine asked me if the way she acted embarassed me in public.  While she didn't embarass me, I would wonder if people would take her seriously, which is what I did want for her....she's a great woman growing in God and I didn't want that to not shine through...but after that situation, I realized that whoever brought that to her attention is a true friend of hers because if you're not a friend, you usually won't care.

In the end we have to change somehow....if we don't we're just going to be running in circles, being repeated offenders....