Monday, May 3, 2010

Hoarding

Last night I was watching "Hoarders: Buried Alive", a show that looks into two different cases of poeple becoming hoarders in their homes and the trials they face.  The show ranges from single parent homes to married older couples to widows and widowers who have an issue of stockpiling items.  For most of these people their hoarding started off small with a few knick knacks, a deceased loved one's favorite sweater, a beloved pet's old water bowl or other items that triggered memories.  Happy, fulfilling memories of what used to be is also the main reason people don't get rid of the items. During the segment, the "case study" is speaking with the show's host who helps them come to grips with the fact that they need help clearing out the clutter or their close friends and/or loved ones may cut their ties with them.  Many times the family and friends of these people do so to save themselves from a relationship that they don't understand.  The families and friends don't understand why their loved one is holding on to all the items, most of which they probably haven't seen in years due to the extent of hoarding.  Being a hoarder has cut many of these victims off from entertaining guests in their homes as more than 70% of the home is storage space to a degree and unfit for living by them (and whatever pets they have) although they continue to work and have regular jobs.

In our spiritual walk we can also be hoarders....when we are saved we have to learn to "clean house", remove the things that we shouldn't be involved in and have at our disposal.  But no, some of us are stubborn and we choose to "hoard" our closet sins (and a few open ones).  We want to keep items to remind of us the shred of sinful happiness we had when we were involved in the wrong activities or in the wrong places, and before we know it, we have a "room" full in our mind/life of things that we shouldn't. Before we know it our hoarding affects the other people we live with that see our true selves....we damage our character in their eyes...we find that we don't hang out with the same group anymore....we start keeping people at a distance...  Then again, we may find that certain people don't talk to us anymore or come around as often...a relationship is a two way street....

I just had a conversation with someone (about something totally different than this post) and they said something that was applicable to the post: If you live dirty, you've got to deal with the dirt.....

'Nuff said about that...