Sunday, June 6, 2010

Lose Yourself and You Will Lose Yourself.....

So many times we are told to lose ourselves   in a moment, our feelings, music or in something, to just give in. When we give in, we just handed over the decision in our lives to whatever we gave in to. From the biblical viewpoint, Jesus = found (dedicated, taken care of, safe, our purpose is decided) and Satan = lost (unorganized, lacking - in whatever you need, always in danger, meandering).  If we go with the "get lost in it" mentality, we give in to our own human desires and don't have God's agenda in mind. 

1) We can get lost in love and date and/or marry the wrong person. So many times, we or our family/friends end up with the wrong guy or wrong girl only because we are looking for love where we shouldn't be..or when acting in a way to please ourselves we end up making choices that impact our lives forever. Before I got married, if I was interested in a guy, I would say "God, if this isn't the one, just take him out the picture...I don't mean any harm towards him, but if he's not for me, take him please"....God heard and answered when he needed to.  There's nothing wrong with being lost in love if you are with the RIGHT person....but if that's the case, then you've fallen in love so you're NOT LOST. So many times we may not realize it but when we date the wrong person, we can damage ourselves AND/OR the person we're dating to make us/them less than suitable for their future spouse.  When we marry the wrong person, not only do we jeopardize ourselves and them, but ALSO whoever God intended for our future spouses to be.

2) We can get lost in our talents/gifts....We may be great writers but write the wrong material...we may be great painters but paint the wrong things..great actors but act in the wrong movies...great orators but talk about the wrong subjects...singers but sing the wrong songs.  In whatever our talents and gifts are when we start to get lost in them, we use them for our own edification and not Gods.  If we don't use them wisely, God can and will take them from us (I have experienced this one firsthand and am determined to not go through that again).  I have a signature line on my emails that I got from a plaque my lil sis/roomie gave me a few years ago...it says "Our life is a gift from God, what we do with that life is our gift to Him".....that right there sums it all up.

3) We can get lost in our own goals. The same as talents/gifts, when we become lost in our goals, we act recklessly, wanting to fulfill our goals no matter what it costs us, our families or friends. We begin to work towards our goals by ourselves. There may be thoughts of prestige, respect and compensation that we may receive or the ability to say "look at what I did" not "look how God's blessed me". We forget that we need to stay grounded with our support group who will be happy and willing to encourage us along the way. True friends and family love to see those they know succeeding in life. When we put ourselves in the mindset of being goal-oriented and not God-oriented, we're in the wrong....God can make our goals a reality with MUCH less work than we'd ever put into them, we need to keep Him at the forefront...

When you lose yourself in whatever it is, you lose your identity. Your personality changes, you may change your attitude toward things, you may change your appearance, your friends, your activities, etc.  You become less and less like yourself than when you kept yourself "on point"....aka, on top of your game. Remember you don't have to be at the point where you have "arrived" to be on top of your game.  You lose authenticity when you make those changes because you become less grounded as "you" and start being shifty, indecisive (or even decisive in the "whatever happens happens" or "whatever goes" attitude) or physically pleasure-filling based. You may start to seem or look phony in the areas where you say God has put you, because now that your mentality has shifted you are trying to live for yourself and God.  We already know the Bible says you cannot serve God AND man....so one of those has to go.....

We have to be mindful to not to let our self-fulfilling mentality take over because they say that an idle mind is a devil's playground. Remember, lose yourself and you really will lose yourself.

Leaving you with something to think on.....