Monday, September 17, 2012

Life Changes....And That Is Okay...

So we think that we finally got a grasp on our situations...we think that things have finally reached a point where we can breathe freely....take a step back....chill...but no...there they go again....changing. It may not be a lot, just maybe some small detail...but something changes.  There's a sense of betrayed ownership you get when the decisions you make seem to be tossed up in the air when unplanned changes come up. We, well I'll just say I since I can't speak for anyone else but myself, get jilted when our plans go awry and it's for no logical reason that we can see.

Sometimes, people change...they change for the worst, they change for the better. When they change for the worst, sometimes we have to be able to discern why and how to help them get back to their "normal" lives. Sometimes we just have to cut them loose so that their actions don't cause us to make the wrong decisions or influence us and persuade us to accompany them down the road of wrong choices.  When they change for  the better we need to be able to encourage them to continue to do the hard work they've done to achieve their goals.  We need to let them know that we see and we appreciate the changes they are making so that they know that they don't have to celebrate successes alone.  Not that we should always need an audience...but there is something to be said about when someone else recognizes the successes we make in our lives without us having to point them out.

Sometimes the situation changes...what was at one point bleak now looks promising and inviting.  We had no car, no job, no significant other...now, we have a great running vehicle to get us to and from work and even out with our friends, we have a job that (while it may not be our passion) pays us well and helps us to afford some nice things.  And now, what looked like the beginning of a life's worth of empty Friday and Saturday nights now needs a calendar to stay on top of everything that is going on. Or it could be that what was once a "sure thing" has turned sour and is now a heartache and a headache.  You live, you learn, you lose a couple of years...but you keep the lessons learned.

We know there is nothing we can do to keep life the same day after day.  If everyday wasn't filled with a new set of situations or choices to make, we wouldn't be who we are today..but what we can be sure of is that God has the final say.... We have to be able to trust that He has everything in control no matter what comes up...and when things are looking ridiculous to me I remember God's Sovereignty: Nothing touches me that has not passed through the hands of my Heavenly Father.

Most of the time when life changes, we get scared...even if we're happy or anxious, we get scared.  It's the fear of the unknown that gets us...sometimes it's easier to face things if we know what we're up against, but when we don't know, it makes the whole situation very scary for us, it makes dealing with people around us very difficult.  It's in those moments that we have to remember that He's got this...and He's telling us that life changes...and that's okay. Sometimes just knowing and believing that truth can relieve our shoulders of the weight that drags on us.